You might have all the good intentions in the world of wanting to stop break up of your marriage and win your ex-partner back, but you could actually be blundering along instead. In stead of patching up all the differences and winning back your lost lover, you could be further damaging the relationship.

Are you committing any of these ten breakup blunders?

Telling your ex what a monumental mistake they are making: This does not dissuade them to stop the breakup instead they start believing what a bad decision it was to to take you on to begin with.

Give your ex-lover a call just when the relationship has split.

Your ex-wife has broken up with you and this should make you realize that they need some time on their own right now and the last thing they need is to hear from you.

Calling when you are tipsy

You have a few more drinks than normal, and you let your heart rule over your head, you dial your ex lovers’ number simply wanting to talk.

Senging lots of unwanted e-mail and voice mail messages: Mostly these don’t help and make the recipient go further away.

Sharing your feelings of being lost, lost and depressed with your ex since the time both of you broke up. You are probably trying to tickle your lost lover’s sympathy nerves, but actually you are getting to be very arrogant and desperate to your ex. What you are doing is referred to as being ‘manipulative’ and this usually ends with a large damaging blow to any relationship.

Continuously arguing about the separation, harping about the past and bringing back memories of positions which are best forgotten Perhaps you do get yourexwife attention and get them to speak to you but is this the best use of your precious contact time? It really is being somewhat immature and in truth isn’t going to get you where you need to go plus it just keeps you lost in the past instead.

Affirming your never-ending love through persistent statements. Even if you think that your lost lover doesn’t understand how deeply you really love them, apparently that is not the problem right now or they wouldn’t have left. This is the right time to view the situation in a completely new light and analyze the past to find what precisely went wrong rather than banking on the strength of your love to assist you tide over the situation.

Admitting your regret over and over again. Perhaps you did something awfully wrong like not keeping a promise or double timing. Saying sorry is in order, but you have to know the correct way to make an good apology and rarely anyone knows how to do this. Naturally never ask to be pardoned all too soon. Nevertheless, if you didn’t do something that warrants an apology, then you are compromising yourself and this isn’t an winning trait in anyone.

Trying to make your ex-lover jealous:

Ok, this may work at the beginning for some psychological reason’s, and maybe a little bit won’t hurt as people tend to need what they can’t have, but it still won’t change the grounds for the break up in the first place. If all you are counting on is manipulative maneuvers to try and win your ex-lover back you will end up with a pretty twisted relationship that will be even tougher to keep going for the long term.

Pleading with them to take you back:

Let us get one thing clear here. If you were capable and emotionally strong, you would never feel such a strong urge to get someone back to your life, which involves begging on your knees. Now that you know what bloomers to avoid when trying to win back your partner back it’s time to get a better perspective on where the relationship went wrong , and what needs to change and then you can begin planning a SMARTER strategy for getting your ex back.